• AJ Jordan

How To Cope With Fitness Jealousy

Before I became a personal trainer, I use to compare myself to others. I would also hear people say, “why can’t I look like that?” when looking at super fit people in the gym.

It wasn’t until I got my degree in Exercise Science when I learned that


It helps to know that everyone has their own

  • Body type

  • Genetics

  • Time

  • Skill

  • Struggles

  • Limitations

  • Finances

And more importantly…


Not everyone wants to be a muscular body builder. And to be honest, some people are taking illegal drugs to look that way which is detrimental to your health…not worth it.

Others have had plastic surgery.

Others are masters at photo shop and with apps now a days, it’s hard to tell real from fake, even in videos!

Some tips to help with comparison, envy, and jealousy:

  1. You don’t know how long that person has been working on their goals.

  2. You don’t know their genetic makeup.

  3. They probably have hours to spare on their fitness and nutrition.

It’s not fair to compare yourself to that!

Another tip is to unfollow social media accounts that make you feel bad about yourself!

It helps to be forgiving and understand that everyone has their own goals.

Maybe you want a flatter stomach or maybe you just don't want shortness of breath when you climb stairs.

Your goals are YOUR GOALS and their goals are THEIR GOALS and that’s OK!

Enjoy the gym. Enjoy your food. Enjoy your friend, family and/or pets. Enjoy LIFE! And of course I’m going to say:

"Be your version of healthy!"

You deserve it. So don’t bring yourself down because of the unknown.